How your hidden OCD is damaging your life
Some of the common forms of OCD are known to all of us, such as involuntarily cleaning up the table in a restaurant or walking back again to check if the car/home is locked or not. More severe forms are when you continue to wash your hands or have this compelling need to check on your partner. These forms of OCD are known to people who suffer from it, however, each one of us has hidden OCD, which is silently eroding the quality of every aspect of our lives, well–being, and relationship.
#1 Compulsion to please
Sana, as an executive training head, was very popular among friends. She would be the first one to organize parties, had exceptional talent at mimicry, would entertain everyone, and be the first one to take your mug to the sink when you had coffee with her. She was well accepted by her friends and colleagues but she could never understand why she was dumped in all her relationships. She was loved, but not accepted.
Broken and tired of rejecting and being dumped by friends, boyfriends, and at the workplace, she was clueless about where did she go wrong, till she attended the Chetna workshop to discover that she was obsessed with seeking attention and being accepted. Her pleasing behaviour was her compulsion, to feel needed and accepted. However, she was always thrown back to her lack of rejection which had become her obsession to remove the same through compulsive behaviour.
Sana, as an executive training head, was very popular among friends. She would be the first one to organize parties, had exceptional talent at mimicry, would entertain everyone, and be the first one to take your mug to the sink when you had coffee with her. She was well accepted by her friends and colleagues but she could never understand why she was dumped in all her relationships. She was loved, but not accepted.
Broken and tired of rejecting and being dumped by friends, boyfriends, and at the workplace, she was clueless about where did she go wrong, till she attended the Chetna workshop to discover that she was obsessed with seeking attention and being accepted. Her pleasing behaviour was her compulsion, to feel needed and accepted. However, she was always thrown back to her lack of rejection which had become her obsession to remove the same through compulsive behaviour.
#2 Obsession with love
Ahilya had a different story. She was obsessed with love even when in love and a relationship. She had the belief that she would be abandoned at some point in time. So she continued to stay obsessed in her search for love while in a relationship rather than absorbing and experiencing the love that was given to her. This made her go all out to compromise at anything to somehow remain in the relationship. She would not voice her desires and would lose all her worthiness just to stay in the relationship which was in no real danger of being lost.
She was trying hard not to get wet while walking in the rain. Her belief had become her obsession and she would erode her worthiness and be a slave in the relationship to hang on to the relationship even when it would become abusive. Her obsession to search for love and her compulsive behaviour to be at mercy to be accepted became a pattern that would manifest for her from one relationship to another.
Ahilya had a different story. She was obsessed with love even when in love and a relationship. She had the belief that she would be abandoned at some point in time. So she continued to stay obsessed in her search for love while in a relationship rather than absorbing and experiencing the love that was given to her. This made her go all out to compromise at anything to somehow remain in the relationship. She would not voice her desires and would lose all her worthiness just to stay in the relationship which was in no real danger of being lost.
She was trying hard not to get wet while walking in the rain. Her belief had become her obsession and she would erode her worthiness and be a slave in the relationship to hang on to the relationship even when it would become abusive. Her obsession to search for love and her compulsive behaviour to be at mercy to be accepted became a pattern that would manifest for her from one relationship to another.
