What Happened When Five People Stopped Running from Love
The Setup: Love as a Loaded Question
Here's what we discovered in session: most of us have a problem with free things.
Not just love. Free love.
The kind that doesn't come with strings attached, performance metrics, or hidden invoices due in the future. The kind that just... arrives. And stays.
Sounds good, right? You'd think so.
The First Revelation: A Blanket Theory
X walked into the session with a marriage that ended on day three.
Not the kind of ending you plan for. The kind where your husband says, "You're not worthy of me." And instead of crumbling, she says, "Oh, there's an ashram in Pani. I'll just go there."
He panics. "I didn't mean THAT."
But here's the thing: she wasn't bluffing.
Even now, decades later, when facing a settlement struggle, her first thought isn't "I need help." It's "I could go to an ashram. I could work with Isha. I could start over."
The joke within the joke: This pattern shows up everywhere in her life—with her brother, with losing love, with facing pressure. Every time love seems to withdraw, she has an escape plan. An alternative purpose. A way to repurpose herself.
The punchline: Is this courage? Or is it sophisticated avoidance wearing the costume of independence?
The Second Insight: When Love Feels Like an Ambush
Y came to a moment where love was available.
And the first thing she felt was... arrogance.
Not joy. Not relief. Not gratitude.
Arrogance. Because arrogance keeps pain at arm's length.
She explained: "The moment I feel love, I feel the pain will come. I don't even know how to accept it. If someone loves me, I have to return it. I have to repay."
There's no currency for this transaction. No exchange rate. But her body was already calculating interest.
The deeper layer: Love, in her experience, was never free. It was always a debt. So when it appears now—genuinely given, no price tag—her entire system malfunctions. It can't be real. Real things cost something.
The Third Story: Your Mother Left You as a Gift
X started with a gripe.
For six years, she held a small resentment: her mother was supposed to be there when she "walked free." Her mother was supposed to hold her hand in that moment.
But her mother left first.
Then in the session, something shifted. X asked herself: Why would my mother—who was so dependent on her husband, her son, emotionally struggling—leave me at the exact moment I was becoming independent?
And suddenly the resentment transformed into a realization.
Her mother knew she was limited. She chose to leave—to not become another boundary, another dependence, another limitation. She freed her daughter from the very pattern that had trapped her.
The revelation: Her mother's death wasn't abandonment. It was the most intentional love of all.
"She freed me from her boundaries so I could expand beyond them."
The Pattern Nobody Wants to See
All of these moments—X's escape routes, Y's arrogance shield, X's realization—they all point to the same root:
Hopelessness in love.
Not poverty. Not rejection. Not circumstance.
Hopelessness. The belief that love is either conditional, transactional, temporary, or impossible.
And here's what's wild: when you feel hopeless about receiving love, your body doesn't just feel sad. It makes decisions. Strategic decisions. It builds walls that look like wisdom. It creates patterns that look like strength.
It escapes before being abandoned. It rejects before being rejected. It stays small so it can't be disappointed.
The Invitation
Here's what happened in session: Five people watched their own patterns come into focus. They saw themselves in each other's stories. They recognized the lineage—where these beliefs came from, and how they've been passing them down like family heirlooms nobody wants.
And in seeing it, something changed.
Because awareness isn't just recognition. It's the first crack in a pattern that's been running in the background.
This is what happens in today's session.
People don't come because they're broken. They come because they're ready to stop running. Ready to examine what they believe about love. Ready to see if their escape routes are actually prisons they built themselves.
They come because somewhere, they recognize themselves in these stories.
And they leave different.
One More Thing
"Symptoms are the seed of cure," as we say.
Your hopelessness, your armoring, your strategic withdrawal—these aren't your enemies. They're your body's way of protecting itself. And protection designed so carefully is just prevention wearing the wrong costume.
The moment you see the pattern, you can choose differently.
Not escape differently. Choose differently.
Join us on Wednesdays – 5PM IST to experience what transformation feels like when it arrives as recognition.
See you inside.
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